This is the brand new website that John gave me for my birthday.
I am a "newbie" webmaster, and will be diligently learning how to add new content to my website. It should be interesting and fun.
Please check back often to see my progress!
Sincerely yours, Phyliss
It is out of the order of how life's sequence was designed to be when children die before their parents. And it tragic when it is a senseless death. A friend of my son was found dead by her mother. That is enough said. With an investigation going on we will soon know more circumstances but some kind of substance abuse is a likely cause.
Life is but a fleeting visit on this earth and is only what we make it. We all have struggles, some more than others, some bigger than others. But I still truly believe that no struggle is worth giving up on.
Time, generations… this journey of life just keeps moving along whether we want it to or not. A couple of months ago I began a blog after having a joint birthday party for my mother who turned 95 and my son who turned 26. Both their birthdays are in February. It got me thinking about my mom being at the end of her life and my son at the beginning of his adult life. I never got very far in writing when I had another birthday party for my son’s daughter who turned 2 in March. She was just beginning her life’s journey. Then my birthday was coming along right behind, on March 26th. I never finished writing that first blog about birthdays, about life, about this journey, because I ended up burying my mother on my birthday.
I love this country. I really do think it is the best place in the world to live. Growing up in the 50’s I said the Pledge of Allegiance every morning at school. I remember when “under God” was added to it. The Pledge was spoken over our school intercom and was heard in every classroom. And we all stood, held our hands over our hearts and all said it in unison. If we were really lucky, we might be chosen to go the office and say it over the microphone for the whole student body to hear. And on days when I had my Brownie or Girl Scout uniform on, I got to salute instead of hold my hand over my heart. On Memorial Day I got to march in the parade in my scout uniform. Fourth of July meant fireworks, flags, picnics and dressing in red, white and blue. Sporting events meant we all stood and sang the Star Spangled Banner. In music class in elementary school we learned all kinds traditional American songs that represented the founding of this country. They will be forever imprinted in my brain: The Erie Canal, When Johnny Comes Marching Home, America the Beautiful, Star Spangled Banner, Home on the Range, Marine Hymn etc.
I am not sure I knew what all that meant at the time but it instilled a sense of patriotism in me, a sense of belonging and a sense of realizing that I was fortunate to be living in a country where we had more freedom than other people around the world.
One year ago we lost our beloved Abby. To be exact it was the evening of January 21, 2008. Abby was a Newfoundland dog, a faithful companion to the end. She died peacefully at home surrounded by those who loved her, John, Seth and me. She was assisted in her passing peacefully by our kind vet, Bob Turrou.
I missed Abby terribly for many months. Like the loss of any loved one (human or animal) I missed all those moments when I expected to see her, coming around the corner of the house outside, or barking to go outside to sit with us by the garden in the evening, or to engage us in a game of tug ‘o war in the living room, or to beg for some people food when we ate dinner at night. I missed not having to step over her when I got out of bed, or having to fix her food the way she liked. Everything in everyday life reminded me that she wasn’t there.
John's cousin, Cindy Crosby, turned us on to this video. She said it was her new "favorite video" for 2009. It's become my favorite video too.
PLAYING FOR CHANGE: SONG AROUND THE WORLD "STAND BY ME"